Imposter syndrome is an insidious affliction that affects many people, particularly women leaders. It's a persistent feeling of not deserving success, accompanied by the constant fear of eventually being "outed". As a woman who grew up in a patriarchal culture, was born in Algeria during the war and has faced countless challenges, I've been through this myself. Today, I want to share my experience to help others who feel this burden.
A childhood marked by stereotypes
Born in Algeria during the war of independence, I grew up in a society where roles were rigorously defined: a woman had to marry, have children and keep a low profile. This vision was omnipresent in my family and those around me. Yet from an early age, I felt a deep desire to break down these barriers. But these cultural expectations left a lasting imprint, nurturing doubts about my legitimacy when I decided to deviate from the set path.
The first step into the void: setting up my own accountancy firm at the age of 25
At the age of 25, I set up my first accounting firm. Although proud of this achievement, I constantly felt the need to prove my worth. I was afraid that my clients, especially men, would perceive my young age or gender as a handicap. With each success, instead of savoring my victory, I would ask myself, "Did I really deserve this, or was I just lucky?"
A life against the tide
My exile in France was a key step in my evolution. Despite the challenges of being a foreign woman in a competitive environment, I created and developed several businesses until 2000. Later, as Chief Financial Officer for the United Nations and consultant for the European Commission, my missions took me to the four corners of the globe. Each new step brought its own set of responsibilities, but also a recurring question: "Am I up to it?"
Art as therapy and refuge
Over time, I found a balance through art. Whether through writing, painting or music, these activities have enabled me to reconnect with my essence and free myself from external judgments. They have been a real tool for rebuilding and gaining confidence.
Understanding and overcoming impostor syndrome
Imposter syndrome manifests itself as a feeling of delegitimization despite objective proof of competence. Women, especially those in leadership positions, are often prone to it. There are several reasons for this: gender stereotypes, the lack of female role models in positions of responsibility, and a more pronounced self-criticism than among their male counterparts.
To overcome this syndrome, here are a few key steps:
- Recognizing and verbalizing feelings Becoming aware of the syndrome is the first step. Talking to mentors or peers can help demystify these feelings.
- Changing the internal narrative Learn to recognize and celebrate your successes instead of attributing them to luck.
- Look for inspiring role models : Surrounding yourself with women leaders who have overcome these doubts can be a source of motivation.
- Developing mindfulness skills : Meditation and other practices help to manage stress and improve self-confidence.
- Accepting imperfection Nobody's perfect, and mistakes are part of learning.
Today, I devote part of my time to accompanying women who, like me, have felt this deep-seated doubt. Helping them to identify and avoid the pitfalls of impostor syndrome is an essential mission for me.
Conclusion
Overcoming impostor syndrome is not a linear process. It takes time, reflection and constant self-improvement. But it is possible to free oneself from it, to reclaim one's legitimacy and fully embody one's role as a leader. By sharing our experiences and supporting those who are following the same path, we are helping to create a world where every woman can feel she belongs.
Elisabeth Carrio
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