Imposter syndrome is an insidious affliction that affects many people, especially women leaders. It's a persistent feeling of not deserving one's success, accompanied by the constant fear of eventually being "found out." As a woman who grew up in a patriarchal culture, was born in Algeria during the war, and faced countless challenges, I've experienced this firsthand. Today, I want to share my experience to help those who feel this burden.
A childhood marked by stereotypes
Born in Algeria during the War of Independence, I grew up in a society where roles were strictly defined: a woman was expected to marry, have children, and remain discreet. This vision was omnipresent in my family and those around me. Yet, from a young age, I felt a deep desire to break these barriers. But these cultural expectations left a lasting mark, fueling doubts about my legitimacy when I decided to deviate from the established path.
The first step into the void: creating my accounting firm at 25
At 25, I founded my first accounting firm. While proud of this accomplishment, I constantly felt the need to prove my worth. I was afraid that my clients, especially men, would perceive my young age or gender as a liability. With each success, instead of savoring my victory, I would ask myself, "Did I really deserve this, or was I just lucky?"
A life against the tide
My exile in France was a key step in my development. Despite the challenges of being a foreign woman in a competitive environment, I created and developed several businesses until 2000. Later, as head of finance for the United Nations and a consultant for the European Commission, my assignments took me to the four corners of the globe. Each new step brought its share of responsibilities, but also a recurring question: "Am I up to it?"
Art as therapy and refuge
Over time, I found balance through art. Whether through writing, painting, or music, these activities allowed me to reconnect with my essence and free myself from external judgments. They were a true tool for rebuilding and building confidence.
Understanding and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome manifests as a feeling of delegitimization despite objective evidence of competence. Women, particularly those in leadership positions, are often prone to it. There are several reasons for this: gender stereotypes, a lack of female role models in positions of responsibility, and greater self-criticism than their male counterparts.
To overcome this syndrome, here are a few key steps:
- Recognizing and verbalizing feelings Becoming aware of the syndrome is the first step. Talking to mentors or peers can help demystify these feelings.
- Changing the internal narrative Learn to recognize and celebrate your successes instead of attributing them to luck.
- Look for inspiring role models : Surrounding yourself with women leaders who have overcome these doubts can be a source of motivation.
- Developing mindfulness skills : Meditation and other practices can help you better manage stress and improve your self-confidence.
- Accepting imperfection : Nobody is perfect, and making mistakes is part of learning.
Today, I devote part of my time to accompanying women who, like me, have felt this deep-seated doubt. Helping them to identify and avoid the pitfalls of impostor syndrome is an essential mission for me.
Conclusion
Overcoming imposter syndrome isn't a linear process. It requires time, reflection, and constant self-improvement. But it is possible to break free from it, reclaim your legitimacy, and fully embody your role as a leader. By sharing our experiences and supporting those on the same path, we are helping to create a world where every woman can feel like she belongs.
Elisabeth Carrio
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